Harriet Braiker’s book an easy read. It isn’t weighted with theory or too many examples. The reader can quickly learn what kind of “pleaser” they are, and the book ends with a twenty-one day plan to turn around a pattern of pleasing that would otherwise render one hopelessly depressed, angry and/or exhausted…which is how many people are when they first come for counseling. This is another standard homework assignment for clients who want to shorten their time in the therapy office.
Too Good For Her Own Good
This book is an “oldie but a goodie.” This book highlights the plight that many women find themselves in, trying to be responsible and “good” to the point of feeling bad all of the time. There are many societal and familial patterns that subtly lead women to lose sight of their own self as they are encouraged to be nice, smooth things over and help out.
The Dance Of Anger
So often clients are depressed or inwardly angry because of a lack assertiveness, which stems from a fear that someone might become angry with them. Treatment includes assertiveness skills training, and helping the client overturn their fear of anger. Harriet Lerner’s book is a wonderful resource.
Confidence Beyond Measure
Dr. Sullivan’s book provides a fascinating body of evidence for the origins of self-confidence in each of us. This is followed by important information about blocks to self-confidence and practical suggestions to have more self-confidence. I have used visualization as a treatment strategy for years, and Dr. Sullivan’s book has effective visualization exercises.